Parents Once Again by Donna Ridge
I can’t believe today is the last day of summer. This summer was a blur for me. My grandson is back in school. The days are getting shorter and the nights cooler. In the beginning of the summer, I was thinking about my grandson’s lack of friends. His Cub Scout den had an end of the year party at a bowling/ entertainment center. The boys has great fun.
While there one of the mothers came over to talk to me. She, as are a lot of people, was curious why was I raising John and where were his parents? She didn’t start the conversation that way, but that is where it usually goes eventually. I understand why they are curious. I explained that his mother left to live in another state, but my son is here and also lives with me. He works long hours so that is why not many people see him.
I shared with her that one of my concerns was my grandson’s lack of friends. I said we don’t live in a neighborhood and one of the reasons he is in scouts is because of the social aspect. She told me that they do live in a neighborhood, but her son doesn’t have many friends either. This was attributed to the fact that kids today are involved in sport programs, many on one or two sports teams. Couple that with homework and family time, kids are too busy to be out and about in the neighborhood.
That explained to me the need to have play dates. Play time with your friends has to be scheduled. All I can think is that times have really changed. Even when I take my grandson to the park there are very few people there. So I have said all this to say that my concern that my grandson has no friends is not because he isn’t liked, but because we live in a society where there seems to be no time for spontaneity. He will be fine. I probably worry too much.
How have you seen change from our care free days of childhood?